Suzann Eisenberg Murray brings her whole heart to her life and her work. She knows firsthand that life changes in an instant. On the morning of November 11, 2004, she kissed her darling husband Tom goodbye and that night she arrived home to find her husband unconscious – he died three days later.
In the early years of her grief journey, Suzann experienced the amazing support and friendship of widows who had already walked the widowed road. In the darkest times, when it felt that life was over, these widowed companions shared their light and held up the hope for a new life ahead.
Paying it forward, giving back and being present to the pain of the bereaved is a vital part of Suzann’s new life – a hard earned life of joy that was forged from pain and sorrow. The Grief Project, five years in the making, is the living embodiment of that work and her fiercely held dream to make a difference to those who mourn.
We all are called upon to make decisions – every kind of decision – some very easy (do you want fries with that?) and some more difficult (do you want to remove your unconscious husband’s respirator?).
Six years ago I was called upon to make that decision. To literally have another’s life in your hands is frightening beyond words. What a terrible dilemma – never mind that we had discussed this and agreed that we would never let the other be incapacitated to that degree.
Never mind that Tom’s right brain was destroyed – it was blank on the MRI. The neurologist said she didn’t think he could wake up because of the extensive new damage coupled with the damage on the other side of his brain from two previous strokes. Never mind that the Doc felt that even if he awoke he probably would be deaf, blind, have limited, if any, higher functioning. Never mind that Tom was already frustrated by the deficits caused by earlier CVAs. Never mind, never mind, never mind……
– Read the complete article here, Decisions….
In her professional life, Suzann is an experienced nonprofit executive, communications professional and organizational development consultant. Suzann and her business partner, Jonathan Bucki, own the Dendros Group, LLC in St. Paul, Minnesota (www.dendros.com). Dendros has funded the development of The Grief Project, through their nonprofit organization, Good Work, Inc.
The Grief Project: www.griefproject.org —- is a resource for widowed men and women, featuring peer support, resources, and Midwest Gatherings and Retreats.
Suzann blogs at www.journeytoanewlife.blogspot.com.